This afternoon I realized another thing I miss about Wife. My work has been fairly stressful the last few weeks. The forensic project I’m working on is quite a challenge. A lot depends on my ability to figure out what happened.
Wife and I shared a term about stressful situations. We would call it “spinning up.” Both of us did it over our joint life. We learned to be a buffer for each other, providing a calming influence instead of adding fuel to the fire.
I realized, late this afternoon while walking the Girl, that I miss that. It was something Wife helped me with, when I have to deal with a difficult problem or a stressful situation. She provided a buffer to calm me, tell me it will be OK, and allow me to vent.
I don’t have that anymore. I miss it.